She had been hiding the fact she was a lesbian despite having had a girlfriend since the age of 16. It had taken her a year to tell her parents and she never told anyone at school.
“At school people get singled out. There is a ginger kid and a fat kid and I didn’t want to be the lesbian kid,” said Kerry.
The ‘anything goes’ attitude is much more prominent at university and Kerry was able to be more open. As a result her confidence grew. Despite this she still feels there is no harm in showing a little discretion.
“I don’t introduce myself as a lesbian, but if a friend asks I am honest with them and all they would need to do is look at my Facebook page anyway,” said Kerry.
Even now people can find the idea awkward, but Kerry feels that the best way to tackle this is to be open about her sexuality. Whilst playing for the Women’s Football team at Lincoln, which openly has lesbian members, she has experienced girls being put off joining the club.
She said: “Girls think that because you’re a lesbian you will look at them in the shower or try it on with them. The truth is when you are friends with someone there are certain barriers and you don’t especially want to see them naked or sleep with them”.
Growing up gay is not easy, but it has helped Kerry to realise that people can be very accepting even if they were shocked at first. Even her parents took the news badly, threatening to throw her out, but over time they have learned to live with the news.
With the introduction of civil partnerships for gay couples, homosexuality now has a place in society. This is a positive move in Kerry’s eyes as she hopes it will benefit other young gays like her.
Kerry said: “I was less than ten when I had my first crush on a female celebrity. I think it was Britney Spears, actually. I thought there was something wrong with me. I hope now it will be less confusing for people growing up with these feelings.”
However, Kerry knows people who have experimented but aren’t lesbians so her message is to make sure that you are positive before putting yourself through the stress of ‘coming out’.Tweet